Author and Physique Coach -Anthony Noud Before and After shots pay particular attention to the love handles and sexy man boobs |
From an early age I struggled with my weight, overweight through primary and into high school and obese in my early twenties I could never seem to lose body fat and keep it off. I always dreamt of having a great body… often I would get frustrated and in a moment of inspiration I would swear to myself that the time was now, I was going to do it this time and achieve the body I wanted- like that guy in the movies, in the magazine or on the street.
Needless to say, my super intense moment of inspiration and motivation didn’t last much longer than a couple of days- I may have worked out for a week or so, ate a bit better, possibly even noticed a slight change yet mysteriously my motivation would always begin to wane, I had a social event, or got sick, felt “too sore” to train or LIFE just happened and all of a sudden it was 6 months down the track and I had come full circle- carrying more weight and feeling a little more hopeless. Sound familiar?
Recently I have overheard or read of many people “losing motivation” or “lacking willpower” to stick to, or continue their journey towards the body of their dreams. This made me take a look at my own story and wonder what is the difference between back then- when I would constantly give up, self sabotage or not even try, to now- where I feel fit and strong, can honestly say I am happy within my body and HAPPILY stick to an exercise/diet routine.
First and foremost- I had to reach the point where I was totally sick and tired of being unhappy with how I felt about my body. I knew I deserved (and always wanted) better. My reasons were purely to feel better about myself and look better, call them vain but lets get real- who doesn’t want to look better? Your reason doesn’t matter- it may be medical, to get healthy/strong for a planned pregnancy or children, to compete in any level of sport, or simply just to look amazing- it DOESN’T MATTER! Whatever it is this is YOUR inspiration, your motivation for change!
To be perfectly honest the next part of my journey is a bit of a blur, I started to exercise, almost daily and formed a habit- this was crucial, exercise HAS TO become a part of your life, if you think here “I don’t have the time to exercise”, then stop reading now and flick your browser back to facebook- undoubtedly wasting the next hour you could have spent exercising.
At first it was really hard, I had to drag myself to the gym, I was working from plans I had found on the internet (some very helpful, and some just misleading) I just remember thinking WOW I am so sore and stiff I wasnt able to straighten my arms to drive to the gym- but going back for more anyway (I don’t recommend this by the way J) Thoughts like- “I am so unfit, when I run I feel my entire body jiggle and its gross,” or feeling so self conscious at the gym that I would take my weights into a separate studio where nobody else could see me working out.
This was REALLY difficult, and I wish I had some special expert piece of advice to help people get through these early stages, but in my experience there simply isn’t any. You have to let go of your ego and self-consciousness, feel that fear- and DO IT ANYWAY!! By this I mean take a deep breath, walk through the door of the gym, and just get through the session NO MATTER WHAT. At times like these your newfound motivation and drive will be non existent, you either take that scary step to change your life or you don’t. This separates those who achieve their goals from those who keep dreaming about them. Harsh? Yes! But true? Definitely!
Within a month or two I was seeing small results, finding or feeling “new” muscles, getting comments from friends and family and before long it seemed that it was happening every other day. I remember clear as day the moment where I realized that I no longer owned a pair of jeans that fit me- and I was SHOCKED! IT WAS ACTUALLY WORKING! Who would have thought exercise and diet would actually work? This was great and felt amazing, I was not only reaching my physical goals, but building confidence and self esteem and had a newfound energy and passion for life…but where to from here?
To get to this point it has taken a whole lot of hard work, sweat and possibly a few tears. You feel good about your progress so far, you have formed a new, healthier relationship with food (which is absolutely critical) and you may actually enjoy exercise (heaven forbid), but don’t let complacency creep in now. That sense of urgency or hunger to lose weight has dissipated with the kilos…how do I stay motivated now?
Motivation DOESN’T just last! It needs to be continually sought after! One thing I notice as a constant with all of my long term successful clients is that they are constantly and consistently setting the bar higher- setting new realistic goals, trying new things, taking on new challenges- whether it be concentrating on the next 5kg, or wanting to see ab definition, run a half marathon, compete in a sportsmodel competition, make a national level sporting team or simply “do man pushups” one thing is always constant- each and everyone of them is always looking for the next goal, the next piece of motivation- the next reason to change and excel!
Write a list of goals for your health/fitness/body. Then decide how important they are to you and then write a PLAN OF ACTION, detailing each step of the way to achieving your goals.
You will NOT get the body of your dreams by simply turning up to your PT sessions. Sure, your trainer should help to motivate and push you to work harder but unless you are constantly keeping yourself focused on your goals, and staying motivated you will experience a plateau or maybe even regression of your results. Sure, we all have down days but if you constantly turn up to your session or class thinking “I hate this” “I nearly called in sick” “this is going to hurt” or “why am I doing this” then guess what?? You WILL have a SHIT session, delivering sub-standard results, ultimately reinforcing your negative outlook.
Personally, and contrary to popular thinking- I DO NOT bounce out of bed in the morning every day begging to be punished in the gym or smiling at the thought of sticking to a strict diet (well not EVERY day) - this is unrealistic and you simply CANNOT maintain this level of motivation. This is where consistency plays a part. Along with having a goal, you must also be CONSISTENT with the actions you take to make said goal a reality. Personally I think this is just as important (if not more) than the motivation itself.
Initially I set myself a bare minimum number of times I would exercise each week- this has to be realistic and in accordance with your goals. Be consistent with your food and eating habits- make a deal with yourself that you will only eat “treat food” x times this month/week. Agree to give 110% in each and every session. When you feel tired or lazy TURN UP to your planned exercise session. Other than being incapacitated there really is no excuse good enough. If you simply cannot make a session due to commitments ensure you do a catch up session. These rules should all have a “no matter what, not negotiable” condition attached. If you are consistent in your actions, I guarantee the results will follow.
Seek new reasons for motivation constantly-cut out pictures of people you want to look like- refer to them regularly! (I have many successful clients that swear by creating a dream board and the results they deliver). Emulate the person you want to be, buy fitness magazines, learn new things to keep your program fresh, plan events such as fun runs or activities that interest you into your calendar, give yourself something to train towards- whether it’s a trek, a triathlon, a figure competition or feeling comfortable in a swimsuit next summer.
After a period of time pushing myself to achieve my redefined goals I realised I had lost all of my fat and was no longer overweight, in fact I actually looked pretty good! But what was next? This is where I noticed a shift in the source of my motivation. I think this is what made all the difference and is a big reason as to why I now live and breathe exercise and diet.
If your motivation for training is based on external factors- pleasing your partner, family or your trainer, Or you are concerned about what others think – getting attention from the opposite sex, competing with others, needing to look better than etc, you may gain great results yet still end up feeling inadequate, or unfulfilled. I can strongly relate to feeling like this, and was baffled as to why. This is the exact opposite of how training should make you feel!
I needed to get real, take a good look at myself and the reasons why I was dedicating so much time and effort to these goals. There is no denying that it felt really nice to be complimented on my new body, and certain instances where it was oh so extremely difficult having girls ask ME for MY phone number! J While this was great, the real fulfillment (and therefore motivation) came when I realised I was training simply because I loved it. I believe this is the real secret to long term motivation and as such I will discuss how I got to this point and how you can too in my next blog!
If you have never exercised, re-gained lost weight, at a plateau and feeling stuck in a rut or particularly if you are reading this thinking “I believe it worked for him but I could never do that” let me tell you that is RUBBISH!! For a LONG TIME I was that very person! Fat, feeling hopeless and my history told me that I could never be one of “those people”. I know how it feels and I also know that there really is no excuse! I assure you that it IS possible and will be one the best things you EVER do for yourself!
This is your call to action! If you have had enough of feeling hopeless or sick of not getting real results grab a pen and paper right now and write down your list of goals, devise a plan of how you will achieve them! begin your new life this very second.
If you have any questions or would like help in creating an exercise and food plan specific to your goals please do not hesitate to contact me anthony@purehealthclubs.com.au
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Hey Anthony - thanks for sharing your story! Great post. I have a similar story to you and struggled for years with my weight - I was overweight and obese until I was about 19 - but I trained hard and got pretty fit and experienced the same situation of people giving me compliments and realising I'd really done something huge for myself.
ReplyDeleteAfter I'd gotten to that point my training became all about others - I feel that from years of having low self-esteem and respect for my self that I felt deep down I needed the approval of others to feel good about myself and the way I was going to get that was having huge muscles. Well I got there, and felt unfulfilled, empty and bitter.
I realised why I was training and that it wasn't a healthy motivation at all. Unlike you, I didn't transform my motivations right away and I walked outta the gym for a good few years to figure out some things in my life. Well I had plenty of adventures and lots of great new experiences that really transformed my experiences and attitudes towards myself and my life and I feel really happy mentally and emotionally with what came out of that time and my current outlook on life.....BUT my physical health took a bit of a kick to the nuts via some neglect and lazy habits.
It's only in the last few months that I have seriously started to get my health back on track and want to say thanks to all the Pure staff for being so enthusiastic, motivated and supportive.
Your post has given me a kick in the arse to kick my own goals and training into overdrive!
Thanks again for sharing!
Andrew
Great blog Anthony. Seeing your before picture is incredibly inspiring and reinforces the fact you DO know what it's like to not be happy with what you are, and that you DID work incredibly hard to get where you are - and you're not just talking the talk :)
ReplyDeleteI think consistency is the most important part I've taken away from this blog. I think consistency (in everything in life) creates success and happiness and it was a nice reminder to me to stick at it and keep staying positive!
Thanks
Kylie
Thank you Anthony, once again! You are telling my story... I have been fit before but not happy deep inside cuz I didnt address the reasons for why I overate. This time I am doing that inner work & now it's time for the shaping up. You are totally my inspiration cuz I know you understand...
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Ingrid
@ Andrew- Thanks for sharing your story also, I know as a male this can be difficult and I know there are plenty more of us out there, not as brave as yourself to lay it on the line! Stay tuned as I will address ways to create more internal motivation in my next blog! Really appreciate your feedback!
ReplyDelete@Kylie- Thanks for taking the time to comment Kylie, and also for your kind words. I also agree that consistency is so crucial when it comes to training, diet and success in general! you can have all the knowledge in the world but without action you get NO results. Thanks again! :)
@Ingrid- I am really glad that I can connect with you through my story. Again, its great to find other people addressing the real issues behind the weight..love your honesty.
Thanks for taking the time to share and comment :)